How to Use this Site

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI fell into this by accident, when attachment disorder hit me upside the head.  Just as the latest brain science on how it works and how to heal was flooding in.  So I’ve been going a bit ape (left), multiplying content here like rabbits — faster than I’ve been able to index it so you can find what you need. (Click pic for best view.)

*New! How to Hire a Therapist

My webmaster finally spanked me (metaphorically speaking, of course) and said “There’s too much good info on here, with no way to find it!  Re-index the place so people can find your book, Featured Topics, and News Blogs.”  So here’s a page to help you find stuff:

Book:  The first 30%  of my psychiatric autobio “Don’t Try This at Home” is posted on the New Book page here.  I’ve got 60% of it written, but all this trauma and brain science news has kept me tied up blogging.  I feel so much better now than I did during the events in the book, events which got me where I am.  But, still, who wants to write about 2012 when all this great news is happening now?  OK, I’ll crack down and get it onto Amazon soon.

Resources: New: Healing Tools for Trauma
… and also –
Healing with Body Work
Audios & Videos
Books & Reviews
Find a Support Group
Find an Attachment-based Psychotherapist
Grief Recovery Handbook
Key Articles
Seminars – April-May 2015 and Oct.-Nov. 2014 “Brain Science of Trauma” webinars are here. And more  seminars…
Special Reports

Featured Topics (find info by topic):
Adult Attachment Disorder, Adult Attachment Interview (AAI)
Attachment-based Psychotherapists Directory and Referrals
Brain Science
Developmental Trauma, Infant Development
Grief Recovery Handbook (GRH) and Method

Healing with Body Work, Rhythmic Regulation
Mammalian Attachment, Limbic Brain, “Fur”

Meditation, Being Present, Radical Acceptance
Music and Attachment, MP3 audios, Sheet Music
Romance, Dating, and Trauma
Support Groups, How to Find

News Blogs: Click here for News Blogs; there are too many to list on this “How To” page, but here are the main themes:
Latest on the Brain
How We Develop
Did I Attach?
50% Suffer Trauma
On Healing: Body Work
Being Present, Now
Watch Out for More Trauma

What is Addiction?

If you find the site useful, do remember:  I’m not a PhD studying “those people” with attachment disorder. I’m just a paramecium writing about how it feels to be a paramecium.

Tags: Adult Attachment Disorder, Adult Attachment Interview, Adult Attachment Theory, Bessel van der Kolk, Body Work, brain science, Brain stem, Bruce Perry, Daniel Siegel, Dissociation, Grief Recovery Handbook, Peter Levine, Stephen Porges

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9 responses to “How to Use this Site

  1. I am so greatful for you taking the time and the effort to respond. Getting a reply from you felt like God answering a prayer. It is so hard to understand and validate the emotional thunderstorm from the deeper feeling/body layers of my brain myself, and I so much fear not being understood by a therapist. I don’t have much respect either for psychology or psychologists. Is this my attachment defect? I feel that if I have to give up my frontal lobe too there is nothing left of me.
    I wish you could take me by the hand and lead me to a safe and all-understanding therapist. I am afraid that I might become violent if I’m exposed to an “it is all your fault” therapist.
    I left a message on a therapists answering machine. She was in a hurry when she called back and wanted me to commit to an appointment right away. That made me feel scared and made it difficult for me to formulate a verbal reply. How can I find out if she is to be trusted?
    So I tap away – I flick my eyes EMDR – I shake like a polar bear – and I don’t understand Peter Levine’s method yet. I read van der Kolk’s “The body keeps the score.” Reading the notes for your book is what has given me the best comfort.

    • We must, must have a good, experienced attachment-based therapist, foremost. The rest of my list of what I did to heal is in comments below. As to a good, experienced attachment-based therapist — Yes, they are hard to find; we must interview many! If they are distant? Or even nice but merely rational, all head talk, not compassion? Don’t hire them. Worst: if they make you feel it’s your fault, walk out! Make more calls, interview another therapist. “It’s Not Your Fault” as Robin Williams told Will Hunting. See How to Hire a Therapist:

  2. I’m in a hell like you describe in your unfinished book. It was helpful to me to read about the failure of mainstream therapy to help you. I am myself a psychologist and trained in both EMDR and EFT/TFT. My returning trauma stems from my mother going psychotic when I was 13 months old, and her regular hospitalizations. I was so looking forward to reading about the solution to your agony. Please don’t tell me you found the right man!? I feel more desperate now when you give no understandable clue to how I can escape my unbearable pain. Please help me…

  3. Did your book ever come out on Amazon? I searched for it but couldn’t find it. Something about how you write, so human, but so passionately informed, makes me trust you. Also the fact that you have been through a healing journey, like mine (I’m 31) that has included so many modalities that span from therapy to bodywork to “energy” healing such as EFT or Neurofeedback.

    • My book will take til next year. I’m delighted by the huge response to my website but it takes so much of my time. Also I had several unexpected surgeries. Good news is, much of my “bottom line” is already here on my site. Please see my reply to “VS” on this page for where you should look.

      • I just found your website and need to join. I have an ex and ex in-laws on all social media don’t want them to harass me as before. I have been reading about attachment theory since 2012, searching for info on self centered parents, verbal abuse, emotional abuse. I found both my mother and father have Narcissistic Personality Disorder NPD. My ex was diagnosed with Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder. Scary. We marry what we are most familiar with; I married both my parents. I believe I am the Anxious Insecure Attachment type. I am 42 and I live alone and don’t want to overwhelm anyone. I recognize many names on your site: John Bowlby, Bessel van der Kolk MD, Henry Cloud, John Townshend, Mary Main. I am in the right place 🙂 I am excited that I found your website, looking forward to learning and the healing I so desperately NEED. I just bought “The Body Keeps The Score by van der Kolk. I am hurting and I want healing so I can lead a normal life and not feel worthless anymore and hope that I will have people who don’t reject me or neglect me and have empathy and compassion. Thank you for this website!

  4. Now I’m grateful for your webmaster’s insight!
    This gratitude may never end. And contentment is beginning to creep back in, too. Thanks!

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