A good attachment-based therapist is hard to find – especially for we with Adult Attachment Disorder. We do need a real therapist to recover, make no mistake; that’s why my book’s titled “Don’t Try This at Home.” We can not do it ourselves, it’s bio-physiologically impossible.
Also, we all need Support Groups; click to check it out, but don’t get too distracted from finding your therapist!
Note: I’m talking about “attachment-based therapists,” psychotherapists trained in John Bowlby’s attachment theory; see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment-based_psychotherapy. I don’t support the type of “attachment therapy” based on physical restraint of a child, such as here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_therapy.
Yet I also disagree with claims that there are only two issues, Radical Attachment Disorder (RAD) as recognized by the DSM – vs a phony term “attachment disorder” promoted to physically abuse children. In fact, there is a third set: legitimate, actual attachment disorder. Just because the DSM only recognizes RAD, doesn’t mean the rest of us are happily securely attached. I wasn’t RAD, but I had a bad case of legitimate attachment disorder! I got almost no parenting. I wasn’t sick enough to fall into DSM’s official RAD category, so I got no treatment until my life fell apart after age 50. How to ruin half a life!
The 2006 Report on Attachment Therapy by the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children (APSAC), written to warn against “attachment therapy” based on physical restraint, also notes a third type of legitimate attachment disorder. “Attachment problems extending beyond RAD, are a real and appropriate concern for professionals working with children,” it says.
For me, I started with both an attachment-based psychotherapist and body work therapy to heal. Then I continued with my therapist and added neurofeedback with a certified, attachment-conscious provider.
How to Hire a Therapist? My take: http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/resources/z-under-construction/
New! Psychiatrist and trauma expert Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, MD, posted a webinar on neurofeedback 8-9-16 which knocked me out. It changes the whole map on trauma healing: http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/neurofeedback-van-der-kolk/
Van der Kolk has graphics of how Sebern Fisher introduced him to neurofeedback. “Nothing I know can do that,” he said, on seeing her results. “Can my psychoanalysis do that? Can acceptance and commitment therapy do that? Nothing I know of can do THAT. Time to learn new things.”
Find a Neurofeedback Practitioner Online:
–EEG Spectrum International [Sebern Fisher’s husband’s co.]
–EEG Information Provider Directory: http://directory.eeginfo.com/
Find an EMDR Practitioner Online: If you have early trauma, be sure EMDR providers have specific training in infant/early trauma. EMDR International Association therapist directory: http://www.emdria.org/search/custom.asp?id=2337
Attachment-based Therapists for Adults and Children:
–Somatic Experiencing, Dr. Peter Levine (enter zip) : http://sepractitioner.membergrove.com/index.php
–Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute, Dr. Pat Ogden
Find a sensorimotor therapist: read the intro first:
–Attachment & Trauma Network (ATN) database. Good for adults: http://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/need-help/resource-database/therapists/
–International Society for Study of Trauma & Dissociation (ISSTD): http://www.isst-d.org/default.asp?contentID=18
–Sidran Traumatic Stress Institute, Get Help & Locator page: http://www.sidran.org/help-desk/get-help/
–GoodTherapy.org directory: http://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html
–International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (ISTSS): http://www.istss.org/find-a-clinician.aspx To specify Attachment as specialty, enter zip and distance range you can drive, then below under “Advanced Search,” select “Special Interests” and check box marked “Attachment Disorders.”
For Los Angeles, CA area, see Comments below for LA attachment-based psychotherapists here: http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/resources/attachment-therapists-directory/#comment-726. Then here’s a link I’ve not tried but you might try: Psychology Today – Attachment-based Therapists in Los Angeles: https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_results.php?city=Los+Angeles&state=CA&spec=496
For any city, for example Chicago, IL, try plugging the new city and state into the link above, replacing “Los+Angeles&state=CA.” It yields Psychology Today’s list of attachment-based therapists (“spec=496”) in that city. I tried “Chicago&state=IL” and it works: https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_results.php?city=Chicago&state=IL&spec=496
For Orange County, CA, ask in Comments at bottom of this page for my personal list of OC attachment therapists.
In San Diego, call San Diego Access and Crisis Line 888-724-7240 (24×7) and ask for attachment specialty therapists (See also Comments at bottom of this page, including meetings in San Diego).
Attachment-based Psychotherapists for Children:
–National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN): http://www.nctsn.org/resources/audiences/parents-caregivers/finding-help
–Dr. Bruce Perry, MD – ChildTrauma Academy-trained clinician list: https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?mid=1DXjLRTR5gNLnj4CjvhKTgcIzjDQ
–Assoc. for Training on Trauma & Attachment in Children (ATTACh): https://attach.org/attach-resources/registered-clinicians/
Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (ASCA) has an excellent guide on how to find a trauma therapist (but no locator page other than those above): http://www.ascasupport.org/_downloads/TherapistSearchResourceGuide.pd
USA’s Top Attachment Authorities
Below are the top US authorities on attachment. I don’t know if they provide referrals to therapists outside their areas. They lead the field in research and publishing solutions; that’s enough to keep anyone busy 24×7. Click on their names to see my blog on each one:
Dr. Allan N. Schore, Ph.D., Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences, UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, 9817 Sylvia Ave, Northridge, CA 91324 (818) 886-4368
email@example.com – www.allanschore.com
Dr. Daniel J. Siegel – website: DrDanSiegel.com – assistant Whitney Stambler <info@DrDanSiegel.com>
Dr. Bruce Perry, ChildTrauma Academy, Houston: http://childtrauma.org
Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Trauma Center, Boston: http://www.traumacenter.org – personal assistant Angela Lin <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Attachment and Trauma Network (ATN) is “action central” for adopted children and related childhood attachment trauma. I’m not sure if they have a directory: www.attachmenttraumanetwork.com/
What else can I do to get help?
1. Go to http://ACEstudy.org/faqs and take the ACE Survey to see how many ACEs you have. Then bring your ACE report to your family doctor, and say you want to see a specialist because you are a normal human facing very abnormal childhood experiences and you feel awful.
2. Regardless of your age, if you had any childhood trauma or severe childhood experiences, you can contact the National Children’s Advocacy Center’s local office and ask for help. Go to www.nationalcac.org/locator.html, enter your zip code and visit an agency in your area today. I tried it out and found 4 agencies all within five miles of my home.
3. If you do not have health insurance, no matter your age, if you had childhood trauma or severe childhood experiences, contact the nearest children’s hospital and tell them what is troubling you.
Report/Get Help for Child Abuse:
–The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children: http://www.missingkids.com/Support
–National Children’s Advocacy Centers: http://www.nationalcac.org/
–HelpGuide: http://www.helpguide.org/misc/service-directory.htm under –Child and Parenting Services, see Attachment Disorders
State Locator for Early Intervention Services (NICHCY): 800-695-0285
–Zero to Three National Center for Infants and Families: (202) 638-1144
–New York Foundling 24-Hour Parent Helpline: 1-888-435-7553
–California First Five: http://www.first5california.com/services-support.aspx?id=20
–Michigan Assoc for Children’s Mental Health: (http://www.acmh-mi.org/)
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