Adult Attachment Disorder

  NB: I’m against using “attachment disorder” or “attachment therapy” in a false way to excuse child abuse, as exposed here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_therapy.  But it’s not true that there are only two issues, Radical Attachment Disorder (RAD) vs such false “attachment disorder.”
  In fact, there is a third, major issue: legitimate attachment disorder, and I believe it hurts 50% of Americans.  Just because the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) only recognizes RAD, which affects a tiny percent of us, doesn’t mean the rest of us are fine. I wasn’t RAD, but I had a bad case of legitimate attachment disorder. Since I wasn’t RAD, I got no treatment until I collapsed after age 50. That can’t be right.
  “Attachment problems extending beyond RAD, are a real and appropriate concern for professionals,” concludes the 2006 Report on Attachment Therapy by the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children (APSAC).
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6 responses to “Adult Attachment Disorder

  1. ….i’ve been looking for this page all my life :)…..

  2. Do you know of treatment centers for Adults w/ Attachment Disorder? I’m willing to travel for much needed help. I’m in Houston but can fly to any location…I’m desperate, in serious pain and lonely. I have alienated every person in my life and not sure why I do it. I was abandoned from 1yr old to 3 yrs w/out any contact, I am 55 and just lost a $150K job because of my trust issues. I am literally spiraling out of control. Before my father died he told me you need to look at attachment disorder, in the 60’s hospitals were unaware leaving me alone was unhealthy. I have sabotaged anything/ everything in my life. It sounds crazy but its whom I have become, running as fast as I can thru life~ Can you help?

    • Hi Ja, I feel your pain and understand your dilemma. I am a 64-year male adoptee that suffered reactive attachment disorder all his life. I too, was abandoned physically and emotionally in the critical years of my childhood development. Sadly, there is no know cure or therapy that will help individuals our age overcome the resulting life-long trauma. I plan to start a local meet-up for adults with reactive attachment disorder born between 1946 and 1969. Hopefully this type of group “talk-therapy” with adoptees that have “walked in our shoes” will provide some comfort and understanding as we approach our twilight years. Look for my Facebook page under Robert A. Forbes Orlando FL

    • Ja, it is not crazy how you feel! We do feel this way because we weren’t given brain cells to feel better by parents who should have been there, but weren’t. We can grow brain cells now.
      Robert, I disagree, there IS healing for adults like us, I’ve done it! I didn’t find out I had this until over 50. You’ve got a great idea for a support group, but there is also therapy for us. When we do get the right help, we can and will heal.
      There must be check-in treatment centers. I’d contact the attachment & developmental trauma specialists below for names of centers and please post the list here for us all!
      I couldn’t afford check-in. What worked for me is a highly-experienced attachment trauma therapist + separately, neurofeedback. That’s two therapists but it works. You might consider moving to California to work for 2-4 years with my 2 therapists. I’ve been at it 7 years and I feel great. You may even find people in Houston or Orlando on my attachment therapist locator page. When you call, be sure they are highly experienced 20 years + in infant trauma: http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/resources/attachment-therapists-directory/ which lists:
      Attachment Therapists for Adults and Children:
      -Bessel van der Kolk, MD http://www.traumacenter.org
      –Somatic Experiencing, Dr. Peter Levine (enter zip) : http://sepractitioner.membergrove.com/index.php
      –Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute, Dr. Pat Ogden
      https://www.sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/referral.html
      –Nancy Thomas: http://www.attachment.org/therapists/find-a-therapist-in-your-area/
      –ATN: http://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/need-help/resource-database/therapists/
      –ISSTD: http://www.isst-d.org/default.asp?contentID=18
      –Sidran Institute: http://www.sidran.org/help-desk/get-help/
      –GoodTherapy: http://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html
      –ISTSS: http://www.istss.org/find-a-clinician.aspx Enter zip and distance range, then under “Advanced Search,” select “Special Interests” and check “Attachment.”
      AND: Find a Neurofeedback Practitioner Online:
      –EEG Spectrum: http://www.esiaffiliatesforum.com/providers
      –EEG Information Directory: http://directory.eeginfo.com/

      • Hi Kathy, which type of attachment disorder did you have? I’m 40 and longest relationship was 1.5 years. It’s something i need to change. Had lots of biological illnesses that caused anxiety so that didn’t help, mostly sorted that now. Very scarred by bad relationships and rejection… Or perceived rejection that leads to actual rejection! Can’t find anything here in the UK that looks like it can help… Thanks!

        • Hi there. I don’t know anything about this stuff. I am a newbie but it fits with a lot of what I have been told over the years. Bipolar, yes/no; Borderline, yes/no; Major Depression, well that is a definite yes. You get the idea.
          I don’t have anything that I can add like links or suggestions but I can offer my time to listen. I am not a therapist or counselor so I can’t give any advice. But for some of you who are really lonely, unattached, whatever, perhaps we can say hi to each other on this post.

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