I had a blast: “Mary Giuliani LIVE!” Apr 18

Mary and I had a blast on her Mary Giuliani LIVE Internet show April 18!  Trauma, schmauma, I want to go on the late night TV comedy circuit with her. You’re gonna love this video, especially if you’ve seen Mary’s show before, or my website here, or my new book, Don’t Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder.  I start by showing that an adult’s head would never make it out of the birth canal (above), so babies are born with only a third of the brain online.

As I say in Don’t Try This Alone, after decades of a bad marriage, I finally googled “domestic abuse” and was shocked to read that it didn’t require beating or rape. Verbal, emotional and financial mistreatment are also abuse, said a major university website.

I’d been clueless. “Whu Nu? He was the first Prime Minister of Burma,” I moaned.

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Well — Whu Nhu healing trauma could be such fun as this video Mary & I did?

Mary has won the Entrepreneur of the Year award for her show, and interviews all the latest authors on childhood trauma and how to go about healing.

We’re Mammals–Not Reptiles

I start the video with My Big Fat Adult Human Head and the birth canal because that’s one reason why babies are born with only the primitive third of the brain working, the Reptilian brain (brain stem), which we have in common with reptiles.  Our Reptile brain must work at birth to provide basic survival functions like heart beat, breathing, and digestion. Try thinking your way into doing those sometime.  Won’t work.

But–and here’s the key–the other two parts of our brain don’t function much at birth.

Reptiles only need the reptile brain; they’re born running.

But we mammals need more brain power.  Mammals uniquely have developed the “limbic brain,” the emotional lobe of the brain. We created it so we could have emotions, attach to other mammals, and care for our young–so that mammals could develop into more elaborate creatures than reptiles.

Reptiles don’t have emotions; they don’t have an emotional brain. A reptile adult doesn’t need more than a reptile brain, either–they eat their young, they don’t care for them.

The real trick is that from birth, we mammals need other mammals to hold us and gaze into our eyes (that’s called limbic resonance), to stimulate our mammalian limbic neurons to fire–especially in the right brain. From birth to age two or three, that’s our job: fire up our mammalian lobes and right brain. And we need other adult mammals to be present with us, looking at us, to stimulate our limbic neurons to fire.

Dr. Allan Schore, the world’s living expert on this, calls it the “first thousand days” from conception to age two.

Also, starting about age two, we need to fire up our frontal cortex, the huge thinking lobe of the human brain.  By developing most of the limbic lobe and frontal lobe after birth, a baby’s head triples in size from birth to age three.

Or Not

Or Not. If we don’t get that intimate presence, eye gazing, holding, and limbic resonance from another mammal, our mammal neurons don’t fire much during those first crucial years.

In fact, about half of us human mammals don’t receive enough mammalian presence as babies, as my book demonstrates at length.

I was an “Or Not” baby; I never got that mammal stuff. I was clueless. Finally at age two or three my thinking lobe fired up and went wild trying to over-compensate. I grew a Big Fat Left Thinking Brain, got a degree in math, learned several languages and worked with rocket scientists.

But my right mammal brain never got past the emotions of an infant.  “Whu Nu?”

That’s why well over half of our government, business, and other leaders are brilliant, successful–and totally clueless about the needs of our mammalian population.  They didn’t get that mammalian presence as babies, so later their thinking brains over-compensated. They learned early to make money and power plays, but their emotional brains are stunted and, well, infantile.  They  can’t feel what’s happening to other mammals. They just can’t relate.

To get healing, I had to go get that mammalian eye contact from my therapist and adult friends like Mary. That’s what my book’s about.

Mary Giuliani LIVE! Promo

Here’s the promo Mary wrote for our show:

Tired of Struggling with Finding or Maintaining Intimate Relationships?

Join Me For My Interview with
Kathy Brous
Author of
Don’t Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder
Ask Kathy Questions or Make Comments During the Show in Real Time
by Using the Chat Below the Live Stream Box at
Mary Giuliani, Winner of the Entrepreneur of the Year Award for her Transformational Talk Show: http://marygiuliani.net/mary/

Kathy was an overachiever—an economist, technical writer, and classical singer married 27 years to her college sweetheart. It looked like Kathy was fine. But deep within her hid a pain from infancy so severe that a cascade of adult life crises finally triggered it. And once it exploded, the pain was unbearable.

Kathy discovered she was suffering attachment disorder, a psychological condition potentially affecting almost half the US population. caused by traumatic stress in the first three years of life. Attachment disorder correlates with the nation’s 50 percent divorce rate and widespread mental health issues. Yet no one talks about its prevalence, and hence so many sufferers go untreated, forced to live with their pain in silence—without a hint of its cause.

This was certainly true for Kathy. But when her initial forays into psychiatric help failed, Kathy decided to treat herself. It was a mistake that almost cost her life.

My chat with Kathy will resonate with anyone who suffered from a difficult childhood, or those who are currently struggling with finding or maintaining intimate relationships. The good news is there’s hope! Kathy’s story also shares a multitude of help and healing that are out there.

Tune in to learn the root cause of relationship struggles and join the conversation by asking questions with Kathy! Please join us April 18! Warmest regards,
Mary
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