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The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study showed that for 17,337 patients, childhood trauma correlated to serious adult medical conditions. “Contrary to conventional belief," says co-Director Vincent Felitti, MD, "time does not heal all wounds, since humans convert traumatic emotional experiences in childhood into organic disease later in life.”FEATURED BOOKS – QUOTES
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My new book is "Don't Try This at Home - The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder" at http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/book/Survival Instinct
#18: Last book blog from “Don’t Try This at Home,” Chapter 3 Last time, I was in the hospice with Mom in 2008 and Dr. Rita told me to “just disengage.” “I can’t disengage, she’s my Mom and she may … Continue reading →
Mommy Doesn’t Like Me
#17 in my book blogs from “Don’t Try This at Home,” Chapter 3 I bet that title got your attention. Hey, most of my life I thought it was no big deal. I just always took it for granted that … Continue reading →
Excommunication Blues
#16 in my book blogs from “Don’t Try This at Home,” Chapter 3 Last time, I wrote that just when I thought 2008 couldn’t get any worse, October-November 2008 with Mom in the hospice in Florida turned out to be … Continue reading →
Posted in Attachment, Attachment Disorder, Attachment Theory, Brain Science, Dissociation, Emotional pain
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Tagged Adult Attachment Disorder, Adult Attachment Interview, Adult Attachment Theory, attachment disorder, brain science, Brain stem, Dissociation, Emotional pain, Need-Fear Dilemma, therapy, Ugly Duckling
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Thanksgiving in Cambodia
#15 in my book blogs from “Don’t Try This at Home,” Chapter 3 “Once again” I thought, “Fall 2008 surely was the end of my world. Surely it could get no worse than this.” So ended “Isolation Row,” my last … Continue reading →
From the Butt End of Evolution
Fear with a capital F has been bred deep into our neurons since man first walked the earth. Neurobiologists call it the “negativity bias” of the brain. For most of history, our brains needed to fear a stick far more … Continue reading →
Posted in Attachment, Attachment Disorder, Attachment Theory, Brain Science, Dissociation, Neuroscience
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Tagged ACE Study, Adult Attachment Disorder, Adult Attachment Interview, Adult Attachment Theory, Attachment Disorder in Adults, brain science, Brain stem, Bruce Perry, Developmental Trauma, Negativity Bias, Reassociation, Scared Sick
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Substance Abuse or Survival?
Substance Abuse or Survival Mechanism? What the ACE Study Tells Us About – Ourselves … November 8 Last Friday Nov. 1, down the road from county Mental Health Services in San Diego, CA, eleven local activists from the mental health, … Continue reading →
Posted in Attachment Disorder, Attachment Theory, Brain Science, Emotional pain, Trauma
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Tagged Adult Attachment Disorder, Adult Attachment Interview, Adult Attachment Theory, Attachment Disorder in Adults, brain science, Brain stem, Bruce Perry, Daniel Siegel, Developmental Trauma, Emotional pain, Jack Shonkoff, Limbic brain, Mary Main, Vincent Felitti
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Isolation Row
#14 in my ongoing book blogs from “Don’t Try This at Home” Last week my second therapist Dr. Rita was telling me to “heal yourself” to where I was reduced to singing Verdi arias about being doomed to live alone … Continue reading →
Posted in Attachment Disorder, Attachment Theory, Brain Science, Emotional pain, Grief, Trauma
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Tagged Adult Attachment Disorder, Adult Attachment Disorder Books, Adult Attachment Interview, Adult Attachment Theory, Attachment Disorder in Adults, Divorce, Emotional pain, Grief, Inner Child, Limbic brain, rebound, therapy, trauma
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Down the Rabbit Hole
#13 in my ongoing book blogs from “Don’t Try This at Home” When Dr. Rita heard about my exploits last week with “The Inner Child Workbook” and the applesauce caper, she said, “Well, I thought you could do some reading, … Continue reading →
Posted in Attachment, Attachment Disorder, Attachment Theory, Divorce, Emotional pain, Grief, Trauma
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Tagged Adult Attachment Disorder, Adult Attachment Disorder Books, Adult Attachment Interview, Adult Attachment Theory, Attachment Disorder in Adults, Divorce, Emotional pain, Grief, Inner Child, Limbic brain, rebound, therapy, trauma
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What Inner Child?
#12 in my ongoing book blogs from “Don’t Try This at Home” In my last post, group therapy put me through the floor. “Start with the wounded child inside you,” Dr. Matt repeated. “Then introduce your care-giving adult to your … Continue reading →
Posted in Attachment, Attachment Disorder, Attachment Theory, Emotional pain, Grief, Regression
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Tagged Adult Attachment Disorder, Adult Attachment Disorder Books, Adult Attachment Interview, Adult Attachment Theory, anxiety, Attachment Disorder in Adults, Emotional pain, Grief, group therapy, Inner Child Theory, rebound, Regression, Suicide, therapy
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I Oughtta Have My Head…
#11 in my ongoing book blogs from “Don’t Try This at Home” After my divorce and the saga with Rebound Dan back East, did I mention dating in California? I did meet several fellows who looked promising at first. Harvey … Continue reading →
Posted in Attachment, Attachment Disorder, Brain Science, Divorce, Emotional pain, Grief
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Tagged Attachment, attachment disorder, brain science, codependent, Divorce, Emotional pain, Grief, Limbic brain, post-divorce dating, PTSD, rebound, repetition compulsion, therapy, trauma
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